Words Count!!!

Thought for the day:  Words Count!!

I realize that in the grand world of cyberspace when you can actually reach out and touch someone on the other side of the world in a matter of seconds. We don't take the time to really think about what we say and how people  perceive them.  I watch other people's blogs, Facebook posts, even post on dating sites, everyday I shake my head and wonder why in the world people would write that or hit the send button. Basic human kindness seems to be quickly becoming an antiquated notion.  Respect is just gone period.

I hear all the time people say you have to earn respect.  Is that an excuse to be disrespectful in the mean time?  How does one earn respect when they are being treated poorly by the other person involved?  Does anyone consider those things as the busy their fingers madly typing. 

For instance, I am a fluffy woman.  I am well aware of my size i see it everyday in the mirror.  So On a particular dating sight i belong I got an email saying you're a fat cow why would anyone date you????  Really that was necessary?  I watched a thread in a group i belong too form a woman dealing with low self esteem issues.  Instead of finding a positive way to help her move past her issues.  It became an attack on her because she was "stupid" for being insecure.  Really???    

Words matter.  They can hurt or heal.  Use them wisely.  There is always a way to express your opinion respectfully even if it contradictory to the thread.  Try to remember that there is a real person at the other end of the computer screen reading what you  write.  If you are having a day, be real, be honest.  

Puffins in Penguins Clothing

I recently had an interesting exchange with a dear friend of my family that told me she met her Penguin. She is a BBW and I was very excited that she had met someone but the Penguin reference really threw me off. She later explained that Penguins are monogamous and often mate for life. This man was her Penguin. I was a little skeptical having not had a great deal of good fortune in finding a partner for a while now. I teased her a bit saying well I guess I have only been meeting Puffins.

I am very fortunate to have made some incredible friendships through the lifestyle and through cyberspace. I have friends that I have known for years that I originally met online but then had the great fortune to meet in person. Even today I have truly wonderful friends, men and women, that I converse with online and on the phone that make a big impact in my life. Though I have met my share of scummy people too.

Nothing is more frustrating to me to find that I have invested my good faith and my time into even starting a relationship with a self proclaimed Penguin; only to find out he is a Puffin. Cyberspace has given people certain anonymity and for some they have used to as a release of their truly bad qualities. While the sugar and honey draws us to them, the stench of their bad behavior gives away that they are truly just Puffins hiding in Penguins clothing.

I point I guess is kind of simple. Who they are, Penguin or Puffin is really outside the realm of your control. Once you truly recognize the reality, what you do, submissive or Dominant is up to you. It isn't a reflection on you if they are Puffins. I think in the face of the anarchy provided in cyberspace it is a triumph of the human spirit that it can still seek to trust, still desires to find love, and still seeks to take the leap of faith. So I guess the message while a bit long winded, is simply this don't let the Puffins contain your spirit. You gain nothing if you risk nothing. Take the leap there is a penguin somewhere that is looking for you too.

Just my humble thought....

The Meaning of Living

The Meaning of Living

A woman born to be a mother
A loving heart so full of giving
Only find a barren womb
This is the meaning of emptiness.
A man born to achieve the greatest goals
Given the mind and the body to arrive
Struck down by an accident in his prime,
This is the meaning of pain.
A woman meant to serve, content in her simplicity.
Baking bread and cooking are her fondest dreams.
Treated to nothing but the world’s distaste, bitterness, and anger,
This is the meaning of intolerance.
A man glories in his dream of family and home.
Reveling in the unpretentious life of kids and a wife,
To find another man’s ambition was to steal his dream,
This is the meaning of tragedy.
These women and these men dancing in the rain like no one is watching,
The sunshine that graces your heart from their smiles,
Suffering in their silence, never giving into their pains,
This is meaning of living.

100 Random things about me

1. I am a single mom with four kids, three boys and a girl.2. I am a published writer and a poet.3.I believe in love and commitment.4. I am a generous, caring spirit..5. I have a huge heart.6. I find it easier to see the good in people than the bad.7. I think to give trust is honorable and easier for communication with people.8. To abuse it is unforgettable and often unforgivable.9. Tolerance is the best quality in all of us.10. I am working on my patience.11. I do all things with my whole heart.12. My favorite color is red.13. I dislike many women for their attitudes and their total disregard for others especially other women.14. I am content with who I am.15. I was born December 20th.16. I think chivalry, honor, and truth are dying qualities in most people today.17. I like movies with a great plot or story.18. The last book I read was Fifty shades of Gray by E L James .19. My pet peeves are stupid people, bad drivers, and liars.20. I love rain and storms.21. My favorite times of year are fall for the colors and winter.22. My best features are my heart and my hands.23. I am a strong Christian woman.24. I have deep issues with organized religions.25. I love great kisses and sexy voices.26. I love romantic music.27. I love for a lifetime even when they are gone from my life.28. I truly don’t hate anyone.29. I dislike some people for a long while but then they just fade away.30. I have learned that it is not about great sex but great partners trading great desire that counts. 31.I truly appreciate the language of sarcasm.32. I am a loyal person and go to great lengths to keep relationships.33. Thinks life has the funniest sense of humor if you can just learn to laugh.34. I think kissing is the most intimate of touches.35. My favorite food is Japanese.36. I am happily divorced.37. I am good with being alone but…38. I want to share my life with some One.39. I suffer from relationship insecurities.40. I think I have potential to accomplish the things I desire to do.41. I am not  a pet person really though i prefer Dogs to cats .42. My dream vacation would be to float the canals of Venice and visit the vineyards of Italy.43. I thrive to be led but…44. I dislike being ordered or having someone demand.45. I have a horrible temper.46. My worst flaw is my low self esteem.47. My favorite flowers are white and red roses.48. My newest ambition is to publish my book. 49. I want to be a Novelist when I grow up.50. I detest Ranch dressing on anything.51. I hardly ever refuse a good challenge.52. My biggest desire is to love and be loved.53. My greatest accomplishments in life so far are my four beautiful children.54. I am a Democrat.55. The way to control my heart is to engage my mind.56. I support Gay Marriage because love knows no gender. 57. I cry over sad movies.58. I only drink on rare occasions and seldom more than one.59. My language is awful since my boys turned to teens.60. Whoever thought up rap music should be shot.61. I would mother the whole world if given the chance.62. I say no a lot but…63. Occasionally I even stick with that decision.64. I hate cleaning the house but dislike a dirty one.65. I can’t dust due to allergies.66. I am a notorious plant killer.67. I have never taken any illegal drugs of any kind .68. I smoked in high school for a whole two days.69. I love to meet new people.70. I don’t like people to say goodbye but I detest when they disappear with no warning. 71. I say "attentions seeking behavior" most  in a day.72. I love holding hands.73. I think of myself as sensual and desirable.74. I grew up in a small town in Missouri.75. I am blessed to have great strength and faith.76. I got pregnant at 16 and gave the baby up for adoption.77. That child found me a few years ago as an extra credit assignment in Research class.78. My greatest fear is hurting someone else and not being able to fix it.79. I had absentee parents and was raised mostly by my grant mother and my aunt .80. My favorite place to visit is New Orleans, would someday like to live in the big easy.81. I believe that until every child has a clean clothes, a safe place to live, healthy food to eat, and a chance at a good education there is a need for abortion.82. I hate talking about myself, LOL. 83. I don’t do compliments well.84. I am afraid of snakes and big spiders.85. I love computers, graphics, reading and movies.86. I collect gadgets.87. I am most at peace when my children are sitting around my dinner table.88. I think no one ever always or never does anything.89. I have lots of acquaintances but a handful of truly cherished friends.90. I desire to find a Man that has a strong Dominant personality.91. I tend to be very emotional.92. I prefer silver to gold.93. I love history.94. I have hidden secret piercing that I got a few years ago just as a crazy thing to do.95. I have a tattoo on my left shoulder of a scarlet orchid.96. I am strong willed and very out spoken.97. I am completely, hopelessly old fashioned with a tendency to do wild things on the spur of the moment.98. I have not cut my hair other than an occasional trim in ten years.99. I love intimacy  but I do not believe in casual sex.100. I have never had a broken bone in my life.I have one more to add to my list that I feel is very noteworthy.101. I think I love me ~laughs hysterically~Ok enough about me, how about we discuss Me!! (just kidding)