Puffins in Penguins Clothing

I recently had an interesting exchange with a dear friend of my family that told me she met her Penguin. She is a BBW and I was very excited that she had met someone but the Penguin reference really threw me off. She later explained that Penguins are monogamous and often mate for life. This man was her Penguin. I was a little skeptical having not had a great deal of good fortune in finding a partner for a while now. I teased her a bit saying well I guess I have only been meeting Puffins.

I am very fortunate to have made some incredible friendships through the lifestyle and through cyberspace. I have friends that I have known for years that I originally met online but then had the great fortune to meet in person. Even today I have truly wonderful friends, men and women, that I converse with online and on the phone that make a big impact in my life. Though I have met my share of scummy people too.

Nothing is more frustrating to me to find that I have invested my good faith and my time into even starting a relationship with a self proclaimed Penguin; only to find out he is a Puffin. Cyberspace has given people certain anonymity and for some they have used to as a release of their truly bad qualities. While the sugar and honey draws us to them, the stench of their bad behavior gives away that they are truly just Puffins hiding in Penguins clothing.

I point I guess is kind of simple. Who they are, Penguin or Puffin is really outside the realm of your control. Once you truly recognize the reality, what you do, submissive or Dominant is up to you. It isn't a reflection on you if they are Puffins. I think in the face of the anarchy provided in cyberspace it is a triumph of the human spirit that it can still seek to trust, still desires to find love, and still seeks to take the leap of faith. So I guess the message while a bit long winded, is simply this don't let the Puffins contain your spirit. You gain nothing if you risk nothing. Take the leap there is a penguin somewhere that is looking for you too.

Just my humble thought....